Sexting is, no doubt, an art of the 21st century.
And not only is it a spicy way to connect on another level with your partner, but it also boosts trust.
Foreplay starts long before you reach the bedroom, Sexting is a great way to let your partner know that you're thinking of them (which builds emotional intimacy) and that you desire them (which enhances physical intimacy), So essentially, you're knocking out two birds with one stone, all with a simple text.
But if you've ever sent a sext that made you blush fromembarrassment or feel like you need to be a sex goddess to even partake, you may have thrown out the idea with your old flip phone.
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Sometimes, sexting is more about creating and teasing a fantasy, rather than achieving orgasm. And while it can be super hot to put those sexts into action the next time you see your partner, you can sext just to enjoy the eroticism, too.
How do I set boundaries before sexting?
Before you hit send, the first thing to consider is your partner's consent and comfort level. If you know they might squirm a little at the thought of you typing out exactly where and how you want them to touch you tonight, check in with them first and foremost.
Safe words can be helpful, but even having the conversation ahead of time sets the expectations and then allows for someone to put the brakes on if something feels like it crosses the line, "And it should go without saying that if a sexting partner says that something isn't comfortable or has crossed a line, that the person sending the sext should be respectful and stop or redirect in a more comfortable direction."
How can I initiate sexting?
It can be intimidating to jump into a steamy convo via text, especially if you've never done it before, but experts say it may be as simple as looking around you.
"You can say you're naked in bed when you're actually reading a book in your pajamas. Your partner doesn't know the difference"
When it comes to really getting into it, slow and steady wins the race to... finish. "You can go with a slow, sexy start, and write something like, 'I just want to kiss you slowly up your neck until I get to your lips." Another idea is: 'I can't think of anything but kissing you.' Or, 'Last night was amazing. You know exactly how to touch me.' Those are really simple, not too explicit, and also super sexy."
How do I make sexting less awkward?
If the thought of describing your underwear or how you plan to use your tongue later makes you cringe, you're not alone. Plenty of people have trouble developing their sexting skills, which sometimes keeps them from even trying. Exploring what you like and don't like when it comes to dirty talk is the best method to starting off a steamy text conversation with your partner, and there are several fun and simple ways to do so.
One of the easiest methods to getting out of your head, and thinking with your other head, is to envision what really gets you going about your S.O. "Remember that you're talking about your fantasies. What sexy thoughts do you have about your partner? What would you like to do to them? What do they do that turns you on? Those are the things you are going to be trying to communicate in sexts,"
Now that you've got your roadmap, let's get to sexting. Whether you're a newbie who wants to learn how to sext your partner or a seasoned pro who wants to surprise your special someone with some new ~tricks~, these expert-recommended sexts will help you nail digital dirty talk your way.
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When You're Getting Ready For The Night Ahead
I've been distracted all day. All I can think about is putting my mouth on you tonight.
When You're Enjoying Some Solo Time
I can't taste you anymore when I touch myself... that needs to change.
When You Need (Or Want) A Little Punishment
I've been a really bad girl today-what are you gonna do about it when I get home?
When You Had A *Great* Time Last Night
I'm getting wet sitting at my desk right now because all I can think about is how you touched me last night.
When You're Feeling Spicy During The Workday
I wish you were here in this conference room. I would have you bending me over the table within seconds.
When You Want To Start Slow
Send a selfie when you can. I wanna see those lips I'll be kissing later.
When You're Ready To Segue Into A Fantasy
When I close my eyes, all I can picture is you on top of me.
When You Have A Simple Request
Please be naked when I get home.
When You Just Gotta Ask For What You Need
I'm feeling stressed today, and I think I need some relief in the form of your tongue all over my [genital area].
When You've Been Spending A Lot Of Time With Your Third Partner
What would you do if you walked into the bedroom and [play partner] and I were naked in bed together right now?
When You're Ready To Recreate The Night Before
I just put my hair up and got turned on thinking about you pulling it last night.
When You Want To Share A New Idea
You know what would turn me on? If we role-played as strangers on our date tonight and then you took me home and f*cked me like it was the first time.
When You're Home Alone
I happen to have a vibrator here next to me... wanna tell me what to do with it?
When You Want To Keep Them On Their Toes
The things I'd do if I was next to you...
When You Want To Transition To A Phone Call
What I wouldn't give to hear you moaning my name.
When You Want To Take Control
You can touch, but don't come until I get home.
When You Want To Discuss Threesomes
I met someone today and thought of how much fun you'd have together. How would you feel about bringing in a third?
When You Want Them To Set The Scene
Tell me about your favorite fantasy so I can make it a reality.
When You Want To Let The Emojis Do The Talking For You
That got me 💦. I think I need to cool down. Call me before you go to bed?
When You Want To Hear Affirmations
What about me turns you on the most?
When You're Feeling Adventurous
How do you feel about being blindfolded or blindfolding me?
When You Want To Be Sweet With A Kick
You know my body so well.
When You Want To Share Your Excitement
I can't wait to taste you later.
When You're Feeling Nostalgic
"Remember that time you made me come twice in a row? I can't stop thinking about it..."
When You Send A Photo Of A Sex Position You'd Like To Try
When You Want To Pique Their Interest
"If only you could see what I'm wearing right now...it's silky and goes up to the top of my thigh. Don't mind the typos...I'm typing with one hand."
When You Need A Midday Pick-Me-Up
"Can't keep my focus in this meeting. Wish I was with you. What would you do to me if we were together?"
When You're Feeling Playful
"What would you do if I showed up at your door wearing nothing but a trench coat?"
When You Want To ~Test The Waters~
"Literally gonna be all over you when I see you."
When You Want To Give Kudos
"Mmm, you're driving me crazy. That just made me so wet."
When You Want To Play With Your New Toy
"Hey baby, I just got a new bullet. Can't wait to use it on my clit while you do me from behind."
When You're Feeling Kinky
"I want you to tie my hands behind my head and lick me all over."
When You Want To Know If This Is A Good Time
"Want to play?"
When You Don't Know What To Say But Don't Want To Stop
"Tell me more."
When You Want To Channel Your Inner Romantic
"I'm lighting candles and playing our favorite songs in the bedroom. Come home?"
When You're In The Mood For Teasing
"As I'm about to come, I want you to stop and make me beg for it."
When You Wake Up From A Steamy Dream
"I had a dream about you last night, and now I can't stop thinking about you. I want to feel your soft lips on mine."
When You Want To Paint A Visual
"I'm at home naked and all I want is you inside me. I want to greet you at the door, pull down your pants, and drop to my knees."
When You're Feeling Complimentary
"Only you can make me feel this good."
When You're Ready To Explore
"Should we try something new tonight?"
When You've Done Your Research
"I was listening to my fave podcast and heard a new technique that I want to try out later..."
When You Want To Quell Your Hunger
"After dinner, will you feed me strawberries and lick whipped cream off me?"
When You Send A Photo Of A Toy
"Want to watch?"
When You Want To Give Them A Little Control
"What do you wish I were doing to you right now?"
When You're Daydreaming About Last Night
"I really liked the way you massaged my scalp. I was tingling all over."
When You Send Photos Taking Off Your Favorite Lingerie One Piece At A Time
"Want to see more? Tell me the first thing you'd do to me if you were here."
When You're Counting Down The Minutes
"I can't wait to see you. I'm getting so wet thinking about the last time you went down on me."
When You Want All The Foreplay
"Let's take this nice and slow. I get more and more turned on with every text."
When You Need To Pencil Them In
"I'm coming over tomorrow night. Hope you're ready :)"
When You Want To Get Inside Their...Head
"Tell me your masturbation fantasy and I'll tell you mine."
When You Want To Turn It Up To 100
"I want to feel you inside me right now."
When You Want To Play Pretend Via Video
"While you watch me play, just know I'm imagining you."
When You Want To Give Words Of Affirmation Via Voice Messages
"You know just what to say to get me all hot."
When You Want To Bring A Fantasy To Life
"I was reading this article about anal and it got me thinking. Can I tell you about it?"
When You Want To Engage The Senses
"I'm wrapped in a blanket right now and it feels too good on my bare skin."
When You Set The Stage
"I'm naked and dripping wet after taking a hot shower. It's too bad you're not here..."
When You Make The Rules
"Just relax and let me make you feel good."
When You Want To Share What You Like To Do
"You know what I love? Making you come so hard."
When You're Missing Them
"I wish you were here so I could _____."
When It's All Said And Done
"That was amazing. I love the way you make me feel."